GENTLEMAN’S DIARY

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pon hearing the word gentleman, one by default thinks of a person who likes pleasing ladies. If you’d get to ask the ladies to define a gentleman for you, you’d be surprised to hear all the qualities of a perfect man. They tend to overlook the fact that above being a kind, warm, nice, caring and all the good qualities, that we are human and we are bound to make mistakes. It’s no wonder when you hear a woman claiming that gentlemen do not exist. To most, men are selfish pigs who don’t give a damn about anybody else and only think from below their waists. I am not denying that there are very poor examples of men who are always making it hard for the next guys by breaking girls’ hearts to smithereens. What happened to chivalry?

The following series will help you see how messed up a gentleman’s life can be. Not everyone appreciates good things when they see one. It doesn’t mean by being a gentleman that you will get everything on a silver plate. It just shows the many twisted ideas people have about being a gentleman.

A disclaimer should be put across that not everything that glitters is gold. Impostors are bound to be there. They will act like the real deal but they only have ulterior motives. It can easily fool anyone most especially if you have never seen a nicer only for them to turn on you and stab your back. With this you can run a few tests to find out whether they are the knight in shining armour you have always seen in your dreams.

A gentleman’s life can also be a bed of roses that everyone cherishes and puts a good word upon every lip and a smile that warms the heart. Not all will love him but there will be little or no reason to hate him. It’s a man who conspires no evil against friend or foe. A man who loves all and hates none. It sounds overrated but it is not as preposterous as it sounds. I know we are all human and it’s easier to hate someone who hates you but it’s the strength to overlook our emotions and act upon rationality that makes us gentlemen.

As soon as the word gentleman pops nobody thinks of any evil thing in the man. It confuses me how some would be of the opinion that a ‘bad’ boy can be a gentleman. It’s like saying a good ‘bad’ boy is existent. By being a bad boy, it automatically nullifies all the chances of him being a good boy simultaneously. This only implies he is good to his lady and to nobody else and it’s mostly with ulterior motives because of the benefits that are at stake in case he treats her bad.

Most of this sounds like walking on fire barefoot without getting scathed. This only calls for the proper priorities in life and some effort towards making sure they are done to the letter. The lady who defined a gentleman as a man who doesn’t force his ideas on a woman soft with words and handling of ladies. A very heartwarming expectation, huh? Try this definition. One who is aggressive enough but knows and accepts his limits. That will see sweat off many guys’ brows. A listener will do the trick anywhere. Nobody likes someone who dismisses ideas before listening and replaces them with own. Try and fill your ears before emptying your mouth. That’s pretty much it about being a gentleman.